This life of yours is the only game in town. The question is whether you want to live your life consciously or unconsciously. You embarked on this journey before you were born. Your birth was an indication that your journey had begun. For most of us we tend to live our life reacting to the effect of our experience. Invite yourself to be proactive and be the cause of your experience. Consciously be aware of what is happening around you.
To know or to wonder who you are and who you would like to be is a sure sign that you are evolving. And that is a good sign only if you say it is so. The more you remember the more you are able to experience what you know. And the more you know, the more you will remember. It is a continuous cycle. As you experience everything from tears joy pain win lose or draw, you might say less pain from emotional turmoil would be good. But less pain without wisdom defeats your purpose and does not allow you to experience the person you are.
Persevere and be patient as you gain wisdom and you will see your joys will increase without pain. Give yourself time to stand back from your experiences and see them for what they are. Reflect laugh and smile at the games you play and notice the people whose lives you touch.