To Be Who You Want To Be

At some point you may have thought that it would be nice to know who you want to be.  How can you be anything you are seeking if you do not have what you think you need to be that.  If only you could have a little more money or a little more love you would be truly happy.  And you think there is a connection between not being happy and not having the time, money or the love that you want.

Now think of a person who is being happy.  They seem to know that deciding to be happy can often produce that experience.  They seem to know that being joyful and loving or angry and sad is within them to achieve.  They know that all they have to do is draw that state of being out of themselves.  They know that nothing occurs in their life which is not first a thought.  In fact they know they can just tell their mind what to think.

It’s not about tricking yourself.  You cannot fake being joyful and loving.  People can read your thoughts, your body language and the tone of your voice will always speak the truth.  To sincerely take yourself into an experience, do what actors do and win yourself an ‘Oscar’.  Think of life as a movie and the movie of your life has many different endings that have already been film.  All you have to do is choose an outcome of your choice. 

If you want to change your outer experience, you need to re-create and nurture your inner thoughts.  Any negative encounters will soon weaken and recede as your feelings start to respond to your new way of being. And then you will scratch your head and wonder which came first the chicken or the egg.  If you believe that being an actor is faking it, then cause another to experience what you want.  In stressful moments it may be helpful to get involved in something that gives you purpose and feels rewarding. 

The language of the soul is through feelings.  When you feel good people want to be around you.  So find ways to give away what you want.  Your mind will think will gosh I can’t give away what I don’t have so I must have it inside of me.  It is as simple and as powerful as that.  The very act of giving something causes you to experience it.  Yet you might say that’s all very well when it comes to feelings but what about something like money.  How can you help someone to own their own home when you’ve been struggling to buy your own.  It has to do with human psychology and the story of manipulation, selfishness and greed.  Why do you think truly peaceful, prosperous and wealthy people behave in a selfless manner and engage in philanthropy and tithing. 

Our nature and how we are taught makes it very hard to allow ourselves to give to ourselves.  It is simpler to see and acknowledge others that may be more worthy and deserve whatever help you can give them.  The magic word is sincerity.  If you want to own your own home, find a way to help others to do that very same thing.  Your need to be willing for the theory to work for you.  You need to think positive.  You need to say to yourself that this process will work for you.  Don’t ask how, just move into willingness. 

Train your mind to have positive experiences before the event occurs.  If you know a certain friend always turns up late for a meeting, choose ahead of time how you want to be and step into that state of being.  When you have acceptance of a situation, you control it.  When you deny what is happening around you, it controls you.  Your soul is only interested in how you are feeling when you are doing whatever you are doing.  Your soul is not interested in what job you are doing.  When you are thinking about a problem you are seeking to create a solution.  Remember your movie with many endings already filmed.  Say to yourself “hmmm .....let me be with it for a while.....”?  and then choose your scenario. 

When you are surrounded by negative emotions pay it no thought or it will control you.  Say thank you to your emotions for being a compassionate alarm clock.  Get out of your mind and be aware of how you are feeling and your answers will come to you. Your feelings never lie.  Your feelings do not know how to lie.  Your feelings automatically respond to how you are being.  How you are being is a choice you make and you control your choices.  There is no such thing as a free lunch.  You need do some work on how you are being if you want to change your situation.  Two people can behave entirely different to the same outer set of circumstances because nothing has meaning except the meaning you give it. 

Until you decide in your mind what something means, it has no meaning.  Remember thoughts create reality.  If you don’t like what you’ve created then don’t give it a second thought.  Laughter is your best medicine.  Your highest thought is joy.  That joy you seek resides in your heart.  Your emotions will burden your heart if your mind is closed.  That is why feelings of sadness weigh heavy on the heart.  And with happiness your heart is bursting with joy.  So how do you want to be.  Burden with sorrow, bursting with joy or do you just want to tell your thoughts to do nothing.  If you want to predict your future, you need to create it first.  Like any magic formula, you need to apply some elbow grease.  Be aware and know what you are doing at all times. 

To be or not to be that is the question
— Hamlet, William Shakespeare
Do to others as you would have them do to you
— The Bible, Luke 6.31